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E finalmente parliamo anche dello sposo, quel 50 spesso 25  percento  e che, ultimamente, sta sviluppando una maggiore sicurezza nella propria veste di principe indiscusso della festa!

Tradizionalmente relegato a figura secondaria dopo la sposa, negli ultimi anni mi capita spesso di organizzare l’intero evento coordinandomi con lo sposo, non solo per maggiore libertà di tempi, quando la compagna si divide tra lavoro e famiglia, ma anche per un puro desiderio di partecipazione e condivisione delle scelte.

Dal sopralluogo in location alla scelta del tema del matrimonio i punti di ogni incontro si snocciolano a 6 occhi e questo, mi fa sempre molto piacere; il matrimonio deve ( e se non equivalesse ad un urlo sul web lo scriverei in maiuscolo ) rappresentare la storia di entrambi gli sposi: dai ricordi e interessi in comune alle particolarità caratteriali di ciascuno.

Il look Sposo

Poche regole, semplici da seguire per evitare scivoloni di stile e  assicurarsi un look straordinario!

  •  l’abito maschile richiede una scrupolosa cura e attenzione a tutti quei dettagli sartoriali che rendono un capo esclusivo. Consiglio vivamente quindi un capo sartoriale su misura che esalterà la vostra figura;
  • Scelta di tessuti e accessori sempre coordinati: camicia in tessuto abbinato al gilet, cravatta o papillon chiara ( grigio, azzurro, o colorato nel tema senza esagerare) o blu scuro. Camicia bianca e papillon scuso o colorato solo in caso di smoking;
  • Lo smoking è un abito da sera e non da cerimonia, quindi se proprio volete utilizzarlo per sentirvi George Clooney sappiate che è ammesso ( con manica larga)  SOLO se la cerimonia è serale. In questo caso accessori d’obbligo: camicia collo smoking, gemelli, scarpe nere lucide.
  • Bottoniera o pochette ( l una o l’altra);

SI e NO

Look formale per cerimonie religiose, più easy per cerimonie open air, ma sempre con gusto ed eleganza. L’abito sposo non può essere riutilizzato per party fra amici ma resta  un capo importante da sfoderare all’occorrenza. Il budget non è un parametro di definizione dell’eleganza,  se non avete intenzione di investire molto per l’abito non ricorrete a completi improbabili dai colori sgargianti “per sdrammatizzare”, ricordatevi che le vostre foto le guarderanno anche i vostri figli fra qualche anno…….;)

 

matrimonio religioso

I 3 riferimenti importanti per la scelta

  1. La vostra sposa,
  2. il luogo della cerimonia
  3. l’orario

E’ importante cercare anche di capire il look della spsoa quanto meno il grado di eleganza, sul quale consiglio di accordarvi: non serve svelare il modello basta semplicemente dirsi sinceramente a quanta formalità e tradizione volete attenervi entrambi e se non trovate un accordo il consiglio è :

abito su misura, blu o grigio a 3 pezzi con camicia abbinata al gilet, scarpe scure e boutonniere ( il wedding designer provvederà a crearlo come il bouquet della sposa ) e il gioco è fatto!

 

Abito Carlo Pignatelli

 

Abito su misura Ma-con

Per ogni consiglio, su come scegliere l’abito giusto non esitare a contattarmi; il team #groomtobe saprà supportarti con discrezione e praticità.

Felice evento,

La grace

 

Credit sposi 2019: Valeria e Igor, Marta e Alessandro, martina e Igor

Credit ultima immagine Abito Sposo: Ma-con

Look Sposa: Graceevent World ( abito, flower crown e bouquet )

 

In the Past, most of all during Romanticism, the language of flowers were used to communicate messages and express each kind of feeling, especially love.

In our present flowers have a massive importance too, in some occasions, like the wedding, are even fundamental. It’s not a case that the firsts images that we associate to the idea of wedding represent a wonderful flower arrangement or a delicate bouquet.

But, if today the function of flowers is essentially decorative, in the past they were actually used in order to express many meanings, both religious and symbolic, depending on the country and its culture, and often on the historical period. In Ancient Egypt – that is, according to some sources, also the bouquet’s historical homeland – people used aromatic herbs, often with garlic, to protect bride and groom from mean spirits.

A similar custom was common also in Greece, place where the myrtle, considered sacred to Aphrodite, was a symbol of love, beauty and energy.

In England too, during the Elizabethan Age, the aromatic herbs were the plants which accompanied the bride, especially rosemary that, picked up in small bunches, symbolized memory and loyalty.

As the years passed, the early bouquets began replacing the aromatic herbs, even though their purpose was neither to express emotions nor to embellish the bride. In fact, during Middle Age, because of the lack of hygiene, the flowers were the only “natural” method to contrast the bad smell of bride, groom and guests.

However in Italy, during the invasion of Sicily by Moors, that took place between VII and IX’s century, the traditional habit, from Arabian culture, to adorn the bride with orange blossom were introduced. The orange blossom are nowadays considered the flowers dedicated to the marriage par excellence, in order to wish prosperity and happiness to the couple, and as a symbol of bride’s virginity and purity.

Another uncontested bouquet and flower arrangements’ queen is the rose, inspirational muse of artists and poets, who defined it the “queen of flowers”, “daughter of the sky” and “glory of spring”. But, as many Flowers Dictionaries say, not all the roses are good for the wedding! At least according to the language of flowers…it’s clear that in modern weddings there are other causes that influence the choice: personal taste, season, budget and style of the wedding.

If you need other information, just write to me!

Desirée – wedding planner

wedding@graceevent.net

Our travel throughout the rituals around the world continues, leaving Japan and moving to India, a country symbol of fascination, extravagance, uncontrolled dances, gaudy colours and spiced aromas.

The celebration of Hindu wedding is characterized by a sequence of rituals, in order to wish good luck and prosperity to bride and groom, and to unite the family too, which after the marriage will share an indissoluble bond.

Two or three days before the wedding they celebrate the Haldi ceremony: during this celebration the guests apply a paste based on curcuma,  chickpea’s flour, sandalwood and roses’ water on bride and groom’s hands, foot and face, in order to light up their skin and wish them good luck.

The day before instead, just like a bachelorette party, the bride with her female friends and relative decorate her hands and foot with hennè, within a technique called Mehndi, to celebrate the journey to the marriage. At the same time a Mandapa, a big gazebo, is built and decorate with flowers in the location chosen for the celebration of the wedding.

The ceremony starts with Baarat, the groom and his family’s arrival, that is honoured by the bride’s family during the Milni ritual. In this ritual each participant receive a marking on their forehead with red kum-kum, a powder based on curcuma and saffron.

After the families’ encounter and the adoration of Ganesha, the destroyer of all the obstacles, bride and groom go to the altar.  The groom is the first person who enters and drinks a celebrative beverage. The arrival of the bride, dressed with the traditional sari, is called Kanya, and when she is near the groom they exchange the flower garlands, in a ritual called Jai Mala.

During the Kanya Danam ceremony, the bride’s father gives custody of her daughter to the groom, who promises to assist the girl in the realization of the three sacred nuptial objective: Dharma, Artha and Kama. At this point the Vivaaha-homa begins. It consists in the lighting of a sacred fire, essential element in the principal and central part of the ritual: Saptapadi (seven steps around the fire), in which the couple makes seven steps around the fire, each of them accompanied by a prey and seven promises. In the end the groom ties around her wife’s neck the mangalasustra, a necklace with the symbols of Shiva and Vishnu, that represent the emblem of married woman. This condition is also emphasized by the Sindoor, a red powder that the groom apply on his wife’s central parting and forehead.

The nuptial ceremony concludes with the Aashirvaad: groom’s family offers gifts to the bride and the guests throw flowers’ petals towards the new couple, that after the reception reach their home bringing with them, in a brazier, the sacred fire in front of which they get married.

If you’re curious to discover other traditions of Indian culture, just write to me!

I’ll be expecting you next month with a new ritual around the world ?

Big hug!

Well…

नमस्ते

Desirée – wedding planner

wedding@graceevent.net

 

 

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