In the Past, most of all during Romanticism, the language of flowers were used to communicate messages and express each kind of feeling, especially love.

In our present flowers have a massive importance too, in some occasions, like the wedding, are even fundamental. It’s not a case that the firsts images that we associate to the idea of wedding represent a wonderful flower arrangement or a delicate bouquet.

But, if today the function of flowers is essentially decorative, in the past they were actually used in order to express many meanings, both religious and symbolic, depending on the country and its culture, and often on the historical period. In Ancient Egypt – that is, according to some sources, also the bouquet’s historical homeland – people used aromatic herbs, often with garlic, to protect bride and groom from mean spirits.

A similar custom was common also in Greece, place where the myrtle, considered sacred to Aphrodite, was a symbol of love, beauty and energy.

In England too, during the Elizabethan Age, the aromatic herbs were the plants which accompanied the bride, especially rosemary that, picked up in small bunches, symbolized memory and loyalty.

As the years passed, the early bouquets began replacing the aromatic herbs, even though their purpose was neither to express emotions nor to embellish the bride. In fact, during Middle Age, because of the lack of hygiene, the flowers were the only “natural” method to contrast the bad smell of bride, groom and guests.

However in Italy, during the invasion of Sicily by Moors, that took place between VII and IX’s century, the traditional habit, from Arabian culture, to adorn the bride with orange blossom were introduced. The orange blossom are nowadays considered the flowers dedicated to the marriage par excellence, in order to wish prosperity and happiness to the couple, and as a symbol of bride’s virginity and purity.

Another uncontested bouquet and flower arrangements’ queen is the rose, inspirational muse of artists and poets, who defined it the “queen of flowers”, “daughter of the sky” and “glory of spring”. But, as many Flowers Dictionaries say, not all the roses are good for the wedding! At least according to the language of flowers…it’s clear that in modern weddings there are other causes that influence the choice: personal taste, season, budget and style of the wedding.

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Today our adventure begins in a place that houses people’s dreams, for its landscapes’ beauty, the enchanting beaches, the uncontaminated and wild nature. A place where the shore of the crystal clear sea is a few steps away the thick and verdant forest, and where the gaudy colours of the flowers fill the eyes. A place that preserve the tradition of the past, and customs and symbols of the ancient nuptial ceremonies: flowers’ garlands… hula… the blowing of the shell… welcome to the Hawaiian wedding.

The element that most of all represents the Hawaiian culture is of course the garland, called Haku Lei, a traditional floral composition, formed by about 50 flowers connected with a ribbon. It is worn around the neck or on the head to celebrate a special occasion or donated as symbol of affection. During the nuptial ceremony, the bride wears the Haku Lei in substitution of the voile, realized with pikake (white jasmine), tuberoses or ginger’s white flowers. The groom wears instead a garland made by maile’s leaves, braided with white jasmine or tuberose’s flowers.

The wedding ritual begins with the triple blowing of the Pu, or conch shell. This gesture pay homage to Christianism, considering that the three sounds represent the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, and so the intention of the couple to follow the Christian values in their new home. The ceremony is celebrated by a kahuna pule (minister), who formalizes the bond of the couple uniting their hands with a maile’s leaf.

Another typical symbol of the Hawaiian archipelago is the hula, an ancient and sacred dance that expresses feelings or tells a story. In the traditional ceremonies, the type of hula was chosen in order to narrate the story of the couple; but nowadays the hula is just a form of entertaining.

After the ceremony they celebrate the wedding reception, called luau. The main course of the party is the kaula, pork cooked for an entire day in an underground oven. Other typical dishes are: poi (colocasia esculenta’s root pasta, similar to the potato), kufolo (a custard of colocasia esculenta and coconut), lau lau (pork, beef or fish, salted and rolled up in ti’s leaves), poke (seasoned raw fish and algae), tropical fruit and more meat, poultry or dishes based on seafood. During the entire party the typical music, with drums, guitars and ukuleles, makes the atmosphere happy.

I’ll be expecting you next month with a new ritual around the world ?

Big hug!



Desirée – wedding planner


Our travel throughout the rituals around the world continues, leaving Japan and moving to India, a country symbol of fascination, extravagance, uncontrolled dances, gaudy colours and spiced aromas.

The celebration of Hindu wedding is characterized by a sequence of rituals, in order to wish good luck and prosperity to bride and groom, and to unite the family too, which after the marriage will share an indissoluble bond.

Two or three days before the wedding they celebrate the Haldi ceremony: during this celebration the guests apply a paste based on curcuma,  chickpea’s flour, sandalwood and roses’ water on bride and groom’s hands, foot and face, in order to light up their skin and wish them good luck.

The day before instead, just like a bachelorette party, the bride with her female friends and relative decorate her hands and foot with hennè, within a technique called Mehndi, to celebrate the journey to the marriage. At the same time a Mandapa, a big gazebo, is built and decorate with flowers in the location chosen for the celebration of the wedding.

The ceremony starts with Baarat, the groom and his family’s arrival, that is honoured by the bride’s family during the Milni ritual. In this ritual each participant receive a marking on their forehead with red kum-kum, a powder based on curcuma and saffron.

After the families’ encounter and the adoration of Ganesha, the destroyer of all the obstacles, bride and groom go to the altar.  The groom is the first person who enters and drinks a celebrative beverage. The arrival of the bride, dressed with the traditional sari, is called Kanya, and when she is near the groom they exchange the flower garlands, in a ritual called Jai Mala.

During the Kanya Danam ceremony, the bride’s father gives custody of her daughter to the groom, who promises to assist the girl in the realization of the three sacred nuptial objective: Dharma, Artha and Kama. At this point the Vivaaha-homa begins. It consists in the lighting of a sacred fire, essential element in the principal and central part of the ritual: Saptapadi (seven steps around the fire), in which the couple makes seven steps around the fire, each of them accompanied by a prey and seven promises. In the end the groom ties around her wife’s neck the mangalasustra, a necklace with the symbols of Shiva and Vishnu, that represent the emblem of married woman. This condition is also emphasized by the Sindoor, a red powder that the groom apply on his wife’s central parting and forehead.

The nuptial ceremony concludes with the Aashirvaad: groom’s family offers gifts to the bride and the guests throw flowers’ petals towards the new couple, that after the reception reach their home bringing with them, in a brazier, the sacred fire in front of which they get married.

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Che i fiori siano la scelta più naturale per gli allestimenti di matrimonio è inequivocabile. Con qualunque forma o sfumatura, riescono a incantare chiunque con la loro semplice, indubbia bellezza. Purtroppo però, non sempre rappresentano la scelta più economica. Tra location della cerimonia e del ricevimento, senza togliere bouquet della sposa, boutonnières e centrotavola, è necessario per forza di cose spendere un’importante quantità di denaro. Per fortuna esiste una soluzione più economica, in grado di sostituire o arricchire gli allestimenti floreali senza rinunciare al loro effetto scenico: le paper decorations!

Gli amanti del fai da te già lo sanno, con la carta e tanta fantasia è possibile realizzare ogni tipo di decorazione. I più semplici e immediati sono i festoni, la cui forma più classica è quella a triangolo, che oltre a essere appesi sulle pareti possono essere sfruttati per degli allestimenti da soffitto.

In aggiunta, o in alternativa, ai festoni, si possono utilizzare le lanterne o le sfere a nido d’ape. Realizzabili in ogni dimensione, sono splendidi sia per le location interne che per quelle all’esterno.

Per chi preferisce arricchire gli spazi laterali sono ideali le ghirlande, che oltre ad assumere un ruolo decorativo nella location rappresentano un perfetto sfondo per servizi fotografici o photo booth, rendendo unici i ricordi con amici e parenti. Di origami…barchette…coni gelato, ce n’è per tutti i gusti! E chi al fiore non vuole proprio rinunciare, può optare per degli splendidi e di super tendenza paper flowers!

Già in voga Oltreoceano, i “fiori di carta” sono comparsi per prima volta nel 2009 durante la sfilata di #Chanel. Ideali per ogni tipo di evento, si adattano perfettamente a ogni tema e palette: dalle nuance pastello ai colori più accesi, bicolore o mono tono, realizzabili in più dimensioni a seconda dell’uso. Di piccola o media grandezza per festoni o ghirlande, medio-grandi da appendere al soffitto o da fissare alle pareti laterali, e infine i giant flowers, perfetti sia per i set fotografici che per abbellire navate o archi per la cerimonia.

Per un effetto più realistico, è possibile aggiungere anche i gambi, così da ottenere dei “fiori” adatti per centrotavola, scenografie dal sapore fiabesco e, perché no, anche per il bouquet della sposa!


Infinite possibilità per infiniti gusti e stili, dal più romantico al più divertente, dal più vintage al più moderno, l’allestimento con le paper decorations può conferire quel tocco di originalità e ricercatezza che renda unico il vostro matrimonio!

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